Divorce is one of life’s most stressful experiences. It’s understandable to feel angry, hurt, frustrated, or uncertain about the future. Unfortunately, decisions made in the heat of the moment can sometimes have lasting legal and financial consequences.
While every divorce is unique, there are several common mistakes that can complicate the process and make it more difficult to reach a favorable outcome.
At the Law Office of Stuart E. Bruers, based in Torrance and serving clients throughout Los Angeles County, Orange County, the South Bay, and the San Gabriel Valley, we help clients avoid costly mistakes and navigate the divorce process with confidence.
Don’t Hide Money or Assets
Some people believe they can protect certain assets by moving money, hiding accounts, or transferring property before or during a divorce.
This is almost always a mistake.
California law requires both spouses to fully disclose their finances. Attempting to hide assets can damage your credibility and may result in serious legal consequences.
Honesty and transparency are essential throughout the divorce process.
Don’t Let Emotions Drive Financial Decisions
It’s easy to make impulsive decisions during a divorce, especially when emotions are running high.
Avoid making major financial moves such as:
- Emptying joint bank accounts
- Selling valuable property
- Taking on significant debt
- Making large purchases
- Closing shared accounts without understanding the legal implications
Before making important financial decisions, it’s often wise to speak with an experienced family law attorney.
Don’t Speak Negatively About Your Spouse to Your Children
Divorce can be difficult for children, even when parents are doing their best to minimize conflict.
Avoid:
- Criticizing the other parent
- Asking children to take sides
- Using children to deliver messages
- Discussing court proceedings with them
- Sharing adult conflicts or financial issues
California courts generally encourage parents to support their children’s relationship with both parents whenever appropriate.
Don’t Ignore Court Orders or Deadlines
Missing deadlines or failing to follow court orders can delay your case and negatively affect its outcome.
Be sure to:
- Attend scheduled hearings
- Complete required financial disclosures
- Respond to court filings promptly
- Follow temporary custody or support orders
- Communicate with your attorney about important deadlines
Staying organized can help your case move more efficiently.
Don’t Overshare on Social Media
Social media can become evidence during a divorce.
Even seemingly harmless posts may be misunderstood or used to challenge claims involving:
- Parenting
- Finances
- Living arrangements
- New relationships
It’s generally best to avoid posting about your divorce until the case has been resolved.
Don’t Make Major Decisions Without Legal Advice
Many people receive well-intentioned advice from friends or family members who have been through divorce themselves.
However, every divorce is different.
Before making decisions about:
- Moving out of the family home
- Changing the locks
- Relocating with your children
- Dividing property
- Agreeing to a settlement
it’s important to understand how California law applies to your specific situation.
Focus on the Long Term
While it’s natural to want to “win” every disagreement, divorce is ultimately about building a stable future.
Making decisions based on long-term goals rather than short-term emotions often leads to better outcomes for both you and your family.
Whenever possible, try to focus on:
- Financial stability
- Your children’s well-being
- Fair resolutions
- Moving forward
Keeping these priorities in mind can help reduce unnecessary conflict throughout the process.
Why Experience Matters
The choices you make during a divorce can affect your finances, your family, and your future for years to come. Having experienced legal guidance can help you avoid common pitfalls and make informed decisions every step of the way.
With more than 30 years of family law experience, attorney Stuart E. Bruers has helped clients throughout Southern California successfully navigate divorce while protecting what matters most.
Take the Next Step
If you’re considering divorce or have questions about your rights and responsibilities under California law, contact the Law Office of Stuart E. Bruers today. We represent clients throughout Torrance, Redondo Beach, Long Beach, Beverly Hills, Pasadena, and surrounding Southern California communities, providing experienced legal guidance tailored to your unique situation.